Thanks to the world we live in,it is super easy for you to look at yourself & tell yourself ever so clearly what is wrong with you. We all know exactly what we could change about ourselves from our hair to our clothes and just about everything. We can all see ever so clearly what is wrong with us …
How about we switch the tables around & see everything that is amazing about ourselves. I know this is a lot easier said than done. Believe me I asked myself what was wrong with me and I could immediately in 10 secs list everything that was wrong with me .
But the funny thing was that when my friend asked me to identify my selling point (This is a Nigerian way of asking was is so great about you). It took me 3 mins to come up with 3 selling points. I kid you not I was struggling. That is just CRAZY. I could not come up with my selling points . It was at this moment I that I realized how badly I had self- condemned myself … like for real only 3 selling points??? (There had to be more right???)
It was then I also realized how social media had got me thinking that everyone’s life was a lot better than mine. It even got to a point that I did not feel like my holiday had happened because I did not post it on social media.
It soon dawn on me that we were are own biggest enemies. Someone once said to me that we need to be nice to ourselves. This at 1st felt like a foreign concept to me.. As I thought I was nice to myself.The truth is that if any of our friends spoke to us, the way we sometimes spoke to our own-selves, we for sure wouldn’t still be friends with that person.
I just want to make this absolutely clear
So when I get myself into a rot self-condemning myself, comparing myself to everyone else or feel the need to list out all my flaws. I stand up turn on some Afro beats jams and throw myself a fabulous dance party to celebrate the all kinds of amazing/flawless that I am. You should try it. It always works.