I am fortunate to have a bunch of younger siblings. My last 3 siblings are the twins and my baby brother. The twins are 4 and my baby brother is 1 year +.

I say fortunate because although it can be very difficult to look after them. They keep my heart childlike. By always reminding me to see the world through their own eyes. For that I am truly blessed and grateful.

The bible says that we cannot come into the kingdom of God unless we humble ourselves and become like children (Matthew 18 vs 3-4 & 19 vs 14). To be honest I never really fully understood this verse until this happened to me over the summer break.


Like any other good day the twins were being a royal pain, so I gave them a good ass whooping. Yes I am African and we don’t even play those games. 10 mins later they were back telling me how sorry they were and promising never to do it again. Then we just had a big hug with extra kisses.  They then asked me to put lip for them (This is thier way of asking for lipstick).  20 mins later we were all just laughing and playing like the last 20 mins of our lives never even happened.

That is the beauty of having a child like mind. Children forgive so fast, Trust completely and love unconditionally.

We all hold on to a lot of anger because we have refused to forgive. Anger has the power to kill us from the inside out. A line from one of my favourite movies of all times (DIARY OF A MAD BLACK WOMAN) says that

Forgiveness is not for the other person but it is for you.

Over the years I have come to learn how true these words are.

All I am saying is that we should all learn to forgive completely like children do. The longer we hold on to anger and unforgiveness.  It will slowly soak up all your joy and light. In the end you will be worse off than the person you did not forgive.

TIP – Try to forgive as fast as humanly possible, just so you can move on to better things like buying more shoes. LOL

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VISION – (The power to see the unseen)

VISION – (The power to see the unseen).

VISION – (The power to see the unseen)

Sometimes it is hard to see, where you are going. From where you are siting. It is like climbing a tree to get a better view,but unfortunately it is taking too long to get to the top, the problem is that without this view you have no clear direction.


This is where VISION comes in , the beautiful part of having VISION is that you do not need to climb so high to figure out your direction.

In fact you do not need to do any climbing .

All you have to do is sit down and close your eyes to see it. If we used VISION a lot more, it would save us all the climbing time, then we could spend all that time & energy working on achieving are visions.


The problem is that when our eyes are open, we can only see with our human eyes. This means that 9 times out of 10 we do not use any of our other senses.

The best way I can explain this is.  As a physiotherapist student I have to learn how to find the different muscle groups/ligaments e.t.c when I had my eyes open, I was relying  on my eyes to be able to find these muscles so I was not using my sense of touch. But immediately I closed my eyes, I could “VISION” the muscles without using my eyes.  This allowed me to tap into my sense of touch, so I could easily find the muscles.

Although my eyes are usually an advantage to me they were doing me a disservice at that moment, because by giving me human sight they were inevitably blinding my “inner eyes”. So I was blind even with my eyes wide open.

All I am saying is that we need VISION,

This is the only thing that allows us to see the unseen

If you are trying to build anything or do anything.You need to have VISION, this allows you to see everything before it even happens.

It is like I always say to my friends,  you can not convince anyone else of your VISION  when you yourself can not see  it. If you can’t see it no one else will be able to see it or believe in it.

With vision you have already won half of the battle, but without vision you are powerless.

It is like you going into a board room to convince investors to back your new business venture. You can not convince them that your business will work if you yourself  do not fully believe in it, cause they will see right through it; making it nearly impossible for them to back your business.

All I am saying in humble opinion, is that VISION is everything, it is what will keep you focused and carry you through the rough paths. LOL … know those times when you want to turn back but you have just come too far to quit now.

Lydia says, when the road gets tough,  “Just close your eyes and VISION it”. Then convince everyone beyond all reasonable doubt that you are not crazy and your vision is real & absolutely possible”.

Make them look crazy for ever  doubting you

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Mirror Mirror on the wall…………

One of the most powerful quotes I have ever read…. That truly changed me was

The best way to predict the future is to create it

It is a very simple quote… But it tells a big story….. it tells the story of the constant battle we all fight with ourselves.

It took me a really long time to fully understand what this quote was telling me, until one day it finally clicked.I can only explain it in one word self-discipline. The dictionary defines self-discipline as the ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weaknesses.

I finally understood this quote when I looked in the mirror…. And the mirror did not reflect what I expected to see. I did not see a person that was even remotely close to who I truly was on the inside. I finally realized that, that person only existed in my head

The big question is how do you pull the person in your head out so that one day when you look in the mirror, your reflection is actually who you see yourself as.

It all comes down to self-discipline….. for only after we have conquered the enemy inside can we even begin to fight the enemy outside.

I personally had to learn this the hard way… because of the course I study.  I have to go on placements. My placements start at 8:00 AM that meant I had to be up everyday at 6:00 AM, this also meant I had to be in bed for 10:00 PM to allow me get my much need 8 hrs of sleep. For a night owl like me it was a big struggle, but every time forced my self to go sleep at 10:00 PM. I was grateful the next morning.But when I did not get to bed for 10:00 PM I paid for it dearly the next day.

I can promise you that it will not be easy, I promise that it will suck most of the time,but I also promise you that  at the end of the day you will be grateful for every min of it.

So I Challenge you to take a good look at the mirror and if you are not happy with your reflection… try a little self-discipline….. I promise you will be glad you did.

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