This one is close to my heart guys…… I hope it gives you the strength/ practical tips to help you redefine yourself.

On my way to work I saw the poster below…..

kick as.....

What really cut my attention was the words …….

under this gloves is a beautiful manicure

It made me laugh , to me it was like her way of telling the world to shut up and shove all their stereotypes of what they expected her to be. She was going to be the only one that got to define herself.  I was thinking go girl you tell them… and while you are at it bunch anyone that tries to stop you…LOL !!!!!!

We live in a world where people are very quick to judge you, they expect you to fit into one box as this makes them more comfortable. As human beings we like certainty and anything outside that certainty makes us uncomfortable. So subconsciously  we try to conform to just being one thing as this will fulfill the  pre-constructed stereotypes that society has made, not because we like it but it is what we have been taught is “normal”… (that is what we tell ourselves ), when truly it has just been us being too afraid to step out of our comfort zone.

I used to try to decide  on the one thing I wanted to be. But for some reason I could never settle on one thing… it always felt like I was missing something. (now I know why LOL.)  Until one day it finally hit me why in Gods name would I ever want to be one thing when I can be so much more.??? Why could I not be everything I wanted to be ??

When I look back at those times I tried to decide on one career path… I laugh at myself… I imagine being a child in this amazing ice-cream shop…. I mean for real guys this ice-cream shop has all the flavors of ice-cream I could have ever dreamed of and more .. then my mum comes in and tells me that I can only pick one flavor of ice-cream…. I am thinking mother why have you done this to me …But I want so much more!!!!!

It is the same thing with choosing a career path…..why do you have to just be a lawyer… why can’t you be a lawyer and chef….. I am not saying in any way that choosing one career path is wrong… I am just saying it is ok… to chose more than one path.

I know you are probably thinking … Pls don’t even get me started on all the paths  I want to take…. it is probably impossible to do all of them at once there is just one of me !!!!!!!

Yes yes I know there is only one of you… so below you will find 5 practical tips to get you started…. All you will need is a pen & paper.

1) Take a pen and a paper and write a list of all career paths you have ever wanted to follow and could never decide on………….Yes even the stupid ones.

2) Narrow them down to the top 5 (within reason )

3) Decided on the first one you think you can begin to work on.

4) You are going to need to focus on that one for however long it takes you to get that up and running……

5) Move on to number 2 on that list…. then repeat step 4.

This is probably easier said than done… P.S this will take some time ….so this is not for the faint hearted ….  you have been warned  

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